I’ve been thinking a lot recently about the whole concept of settling down and “the one.”
I don’t know if it’s just me, but I still find that in this modern day and age there is still a lot of pressure to find “the one” and do the settling down. It comes from parents, friends, teachers, books, TV shows, films, magazines, religion, tradition, Everywhere. It’s everywhere.
Some people never find “the one,” and if you think you do, then they might die, or you might get a divorce and then you find another “one.”
I know I’m not really saying anything new, but I think the idea of soulmates is absolute bollocks. I don’t believe that there is one person out there for each individual that you’re destined to be with and who is specifically designed for you.
That just wouldn’t work. What if your soulmate lives on the other side of the world and you never cross paths with them?
Are you doomed to be alone for the rest of your life? What if your “one” has already met and married someone else? Do you then secretly pray for them to die so you can swoop in there and save them from a life of misery?
What if your “one” cheats on you? Does it then turn out that they weren’t “the one” after all, and then the next one, that’s “the one.”
Don’t get me wrong, I think that love is great, but two people meeting and then finding each other attractive and then getting to know each other well enough and then falling in love is all just coincidence amongst chaos. There are probably loads of people in the world who you are capable of falling in love with. You just haven’t spent enough time with any of them yet, but when you are in love, you can’t imagine yourself with anyone else… except if you’re Tim Minchin.
Me and my friends Brompton escorts from https://charlotteaction.org/brompton-escorts genuinely have conversations about all of the the cool things that we want to do in life before we settle down, and I think that’s really strange. We talk about it as if there’s a time limit to our fun. I really don’t like the idea that there’s this transition when people expect you to give up your old hedonistic life in favor for starting a new one that involves a mortgage and a spouse and babies. Like, what if I don’t want that? Or what if I want both? Also, I feel like I’m being constantly tricked because I’m being told to settle down, but also not settle for second best.
I find it strange that in society, we put settling down and marriage and all of that on a pedestal, like that is the path that you take in life. Like when you’re a kid you learn you go to school, you go to university, you get a job, you get married, and you have babies. Like, it’s this life path thing. I just find it really strange that that’s the thing that’s on the top, but then again, don’t you think that it’s really nice that one of the things that we value most in our society is love.
Like what kind of love? There’s so many different types of love. If you’re in love, that’s absolutely great. I am very happy for you, but just remember they’re not “the one” because there’s such thing as “the one.” There are lots of “ones,” and they add up to make two…. what?